I used to doubt myself, thinking I was too much. Too needy. Too emotional. Too attention seeking and craving too much love & emotional validation. Those uncontrollable thoughts made me feel unworthy and question my self-worth.

The more I expressed myself and asked for clarity over the heartbreaking ignorance, the more I was told I was crazy, that I was making things up. I tried having calm conversations about emotional needs. I tried crying. I tried begging for attention. I tried arguing. I even tried screaming, thinking maybe then I’d finally be heard. But all I received were signs of emotional neglect that slowly pushed me into self-abandonment.

All I needed was reassurance that I was treated with honesty, that I was loved, heard, that I belonged, that my efforts are acknowledged and most of all I mattered. I was made to feel like I was asking for too much, but I’ve come to realize that these are basics of emotional connections & healthy relationships. Wanting these isn’t needy. It’s about validating your needs and knowing your worth.

It’s hard to believe how easily some people choose to invalidate and emotionally neglect a person’s basic needs. But then again, I’ve come to realize that emotionally unavailable people will never understand the damage they cause to those who love them unconditionally. They don’t see how a lack of emotional support can slowly and even break the other person. It was heartbreaking to realize that they weren’t incapable of love. Just incapable of loving me the way I deserved. The moment I stepped away – slowly and gradually, my emotional growth began. I started to understand my worth, and how I had lowered my standards for people who were never worthy of me. From here on, it’s about rebuilding self worth, choosing better connections and accepting healthy love, instead of lowering the standards.

Just know you’re enough and worthy for the people who truly deserve you. It takes so much courage and effort to heal emotionally & rediscover your self worth.

Think about a time you were made to feel like “too much.”
What would you say to your past self now?