Who was really there when I needed help the most? When I reached out, hoping someone would notice I was struggling? No one, but me.

It took everything in me to accept that simple, painful truth: at the end of the day, I’ve only ever truly had myself.

Being emotionally sensitive and always helping others has always been my thing. So naturally, I expected that same kindness in return. But the truth hit hard — no one was really there for me.

There were numerous times I almost broke down. Healing from emotional abandonment, especially after constantly being let down by others, is a slow process. It doesn’t happen overnight.

After a little bit of time, I realized I had accepted that no one was coming to rescue me. No one was going to be there for me in the way I needed. So I decided to show up for me and do everything I’ve always wanted, just for myself.

I felt lonely at first, but that was the beginning of learning to rely on myself, the start of my self-love journey. With time, I began to understand that emotional resilience isn’t about being unaffected by pain, it’s about knowing you can still stand, even after the people you counted on let you fall. Every small decision I made to choose myself was a step toward healing.

I began the process of emotional healing and slowly started becoming the person I once dreamed of being.  I’m no longer waiting for closure or relying on outside support. I started giving myself the importance that I was forgetting all this time.

I take myself on little walks, schedule medical check-ups & go on solo coffee dates. With the day to day chaos, it is easy to forget how to show up for yourself. You get so caught up in survival. But through these small acts of care, I’ve slowly been building self-worth, the kind that no one else can take away.

It would be a lie to say I never long for their support. Sometimes, I still wish someone had shown up, held space, or stayed.

I’ve learned to celebrate the quiet strength that comes with becoming your own safe place. Learning to comfort yourself is beyond powerful. This journey has taught me that self-worth isn’t built through external validation.

While it hasn’t been easy, every moment of it has pushed me toward deeper emotional growth. I am no longer waiting to be saved. I’ve become the home I was searching for all along.

What if the person you’ve been waiting for… has always been you?